There’s no pre-planned for the New Year Eve before this. All we did was dressed up, meet up and have a good time at a club with good vibe & music. I left office for the day and head back home. Luckily the traffic didn’t get jammed up. After a brief dinner at home, I started to get ready for the celebration while waiting to meet up at my place. We drove off to pick up other girlfriend before we head to a club for the celebration. I choose my simple dress and put on my simple make up with a little smokey eyes on top.
We went to Zeta Bar at KL Hilton for the celebration. I like that place as most people really nice or they really high on alcohol and they just being super-friendly. The ladies and the men there really dressed up well unlike those few clubs that I went, where you can see tons of freak shows going on. DJ is the best so far and he’s known as DJ JD. That’s easy to remember, huh? Bartenders are super fast and friendly. So far throughout the night, there’s no drama or fights going on so far. Luckily! Except for 1 particular guy, he’s damn arrogant and keep eating up my space at the bar. WTF? Get your own space dude! Overall, we ladies have a great time and we arrived home safe, at around 4-ish am! Oh well, have a great year ahead everyone. May 2014 would be a great year for all of you!
Cut the chase. We completed the 3-day Pre Wedding course and we’ve packed all necessary items to bring for the pre-wedding photo shoot the night before. My hubby and I tailored made the traditional costume from Mona, our tailor back in Subang Jaya. As you can see, both of us are giants and we are pretty sure there’s no sizes available for us when comes to this one. We just wanted to feel comfortable with the clothing as the materials used for the costume are quite heavy. Shoes, wet tissues, loads of towels and flip flop too. Not to forget we also packed big bottles of water as my hubby is a walking water tank when he’s thirsty. He literally could finish a 1.5 liter of water in a single gulp!!!
The turning point of my life. Before we are heading to the bridal house for the make up at 7am I received a news that a good friend of mine passed away in his sleep. I’m very devastated to hear this and we supposed to meet up the day he passed away. I was wondering why he didn’t call me back as he promised to confirm the meeting time and venue. It was a heartbreaking moment for me and I kept this from my hubby until the midday, I broke the news to him. He’s supposed to attend my wedding in October 2013 and looking forward to meet him too.
We started our friendship back in university and we get to know each other well once we realized we came from the same hometown, i.e. Kota Kinabalu. He’s a trombonist just like back in the school band day in high school. The only difference was we are from 2 different school, rival school to be exact. Then every year when I go back to hometown we always catch up for a drink just to keep in touch. As usual, on the day I’ve arrived KK I’ve called him to set up for a drink to catch up and he said he will confirm again the dates and venue, which he ALWAYS do. Until, I heard the news 2 days later after we spoke over the phone.
RIP Perry. It’s very sudden and I’ve stayed strong throughout the photo shoot and maintain my mood for the best shot of our pictures.
If only I just picked up the phone 1 day before the day you left and say something to you, at least I could talk to you for the very last time.
I went back to my hometown to get my pre-wedding photos taken last July 2013 and to complete the 3-day compulsory pre-marriage course by the church. By October 2013, our church wedding will be held in the same church in my hometown. Yes! If you ask, it’s located at Sacred Heart Cathedral, Kota Kinabalu. On the 31 July 2013, hubby and I went through smooth flight for about 2 hours and 15 minutes. I have to say, the airport ground luggage management has to be improved at some point. Apparently our flight delayed because of the process of transferring luggage to the plane take longer time than expected! What a shame. The pilot has to apologize on behalf of them. Behind us there were 2 cheeky hyper children that keep repeating same sentences to their mother. Hubby said they are on the loop mode, like the iPod shuffle. I said the CD rosak (malfunction) because the CD keep playing the same song and keep repeating the same thing! Right after take off, there was complete silence. Hubby and I were curious. When we secretly turned back and have a peek, both kids sleep with mouth opened and legs spread wide open too! I guess, hyper kids do have their limit too.
My sister picked us up at the airport and headed to her place to stay for the next 1 week. Our 1st day of pre-marriage course starts at 7.30pm. So we still have couple of hours to spare to go for food hunt. We ended up going from one place to another with disappointments. Oh well, we arrived Kota Kinabalu around later afternoon and most places with good food closed for the day. Apparently, good food here available mostly in the morning, as early as 7am to 2pm. Luckily we found a place that serves my favourite food, the Wa-Tan-Hor (noodles served with heavy gravy). At least I’m well fed with a proper hot meal for that day. Weather was fine during the day and later in the evening it was windy and cooling. Perfect for me and far more better than the stuffy city hot air in Kuala Lumpur.
Right after the dinner, we headed to Sacred Heart Cathedral Church for the pre-wedding course that took 3 nights to complete for 2 hours per night. I am grateful that my own parish willing to take us in unlike the orthodox ways I encountered from the KL parish. At least in Sacred Heart church, they opened for ALL parish unlike the KL churches that they need to know where you stay and which church you usually go and which parish you belong to. You know what, screw you and I rather choose my own hometown church to get my pre-wedding courses done! Surpringsly churches now run their parish like a business entity instead of a worship place. The course also included the abortion talk and show the process from a video. Yikes! That’s part of the course that I will never forget.
*Disclaimer: We took this picture randomly before the course started and have no idea the couple behind were very tired.
That was the end of the first night here and we were so exhausted when we reached home. I knocked out straight. Till the next post.
My pre-wedding shoot will be on next week and I am looking forward to it. As I browsing through the website for tips to have pleasant photo shooting I decided to go to my long abandoned blog here. I used to have free time and passion to update my blog. Not for money making of course. It’s more like a journal for me to look back after so many years later. At least I could see and reviewed what I have done so far and what I have been through all my life.
I started to blog when I was in college 1st year back in 2004 as I have access to internet way easier compared to my high school days. To think back I have rough years until I completed my university days in 2006. Most of the time I was alone and don’t really socialize much unless I’m going to class. After that I’m back to a lonely girl who spent most of my time reading and sleeping my dorm room. Perhaps I’m not a fan wasting time gossiping and spending money I don’t have by hanging out with certain group of people gave me hard time to blend in the group. Different taste, different background and different languages. I have to admit I can’t clicked with too Chinese-Educated people. Sorry to say, not being a snob, I tried, seriously! It’s just don’t jive. Simple thing like dressing style and way of thinking already put me in a very difficult situation to blend in.
I did involved in relationships back then. 2 crappy men I’m in love so much I would say and I think they don’t deserve a spot here to talk about them! They took my 6 best years and I really regretted to be loyal to these assholes for 3 years each! I wish I could be prettier and slimmer, things can be different where these boys would just do anything for me and shower me with gifts or treat me like a princess. These useless thought stopped when I decided not to let anyone to determine my life. Enough said. If I want that shoes, I will work hard and buy it myself. If I want that house, I will find my way to make my moolah and buy it with my own effort. At least I am accountable to my life and no one else can take that away from me. I’m glad I met my husband who cares for me and accept for who I am. Yes, including my 78kg body and plain look with flat nose.
When comes to personal achievements, there is nothing to shout about. Never was an athlete or genius math whiz or something in school, I do have low self-esteem back then and often have wishful thoughts like, if only I could have a rich family that could send me to overseas and never come back. I wish I could just live luxury life without worries and have the best times of my life! There are times I wish I could have tons of money and just go shopping without worrying about my bank account. It getting worse when I went to university followed by celebrating my 32nd birthday with no birthday blast party or something. I’m pretty upset about it as this is not what I wanted to be like at all. I guess, truth hurts and reality hit me hard! After reviewing and find out the reasons why the heck am I sulking here, I decided to put this useless thought at rest and write down my goals and plans. To make it more exciting, I will post it in my blog soon and let the public knows so that I have no excuses to avoid it because everyone is watching me. Of course, I do not wish people watching and waiting me to fail.
Reading more inspiring blogs about real people does gave me more insights on how to take control of my life. Yes! There are still hopes. These are few start up thoughts and plans I have in mind to move forward:
I have to accept the fact that my father is not Robert Kuok la! I know. I’m just a plain girl born in a middle-class family. That doesn’t mean I will die as one plain girl too. Unless I don’t do anything about it by just let the time goes by and eat my youth away. I decided how much I must earn each month to sustain comfortably and how can I do it to achieve that. Of course, I put a deadline there, by age 35! Oh yes, tick-tock, time is ticking 3 years to go mate!
List down 10 long term goals, 10 medium term goals and 10 short term goals with deadlines. Sounds crazy and this is not what I usually do. You know what, I’ve been wasting away 32 years of my life, time to take control and get it back!\
Prepare a bucket list and do all these crazy things before I die. Oh yes! One of them is to compete in marathon and get a bloody medal. I shall post the list and going to execute these and blog about it.
If you still reading up to this paragraph, I really appreciate it! Normally people just gonna click “X” once they read the 1st paragraph. Thank you dear reader, I need support from you. Once I’m done with the 3 things I’ve mentioned just now I shall post it for more updates.
I’m well known to my strict way of leadership. Effective leadership it is. I can’t tolerate with nonsense and excuses. All I care about it KPI! Achievements. My way to motivate is : ” I don’t care how you do, provided within the legal boundaries, get it done!” Sounds like dictatorship for certain people. I would say these people just can’t keep up with me or they just don’t like me at all. Efficient! Get things done! Bla Bla Bla!
I am not usually like this. It all started with a history. A bad one I would say. Back in the university days, I was being pushed away for being inefficient. It was a brutal. To the extend I refused to be in a group for ALL assignments, including dissertation which is compulsory to be submitted in groups.
There’s one particular tutor has to stand up for me and to advice other classmates to take me in. Well, they just have to take me in anyway. It was a painful experience for me as I treated them as my friends. Obviously just because I’m a just not as good as they expected me to be, I became an outcast in seconds. It’s a tough lesson I learnt that I have to bulk up if I wanted to survive.
Another lesson learnt is it’s best to motivate other members who is dropping out instead of just throw them away without even trying. I don’t want to be treated that way and clearly I will not treat others that way too. Unless it’s a gone case for instance after several attempt to motivate them, these members refused to change for better.
I lead according to situation. If shit is getting out of hand, I turned to Hitler and get things right. I prefer to call it the CHAOS Management. If members or subordinates are doing the right things and responsible with their individual functional roles, I’m just focus on the directions and goals they need to achieve. The rest, leave it to them to do it. Like I said, I don’t care how they do it, just get things done and achieve the KPI.
Micromanagement is tiring for me. However if my team need a push to get this forward, I stepped in. Temporarily and they need to bulk and move on their own fast too! After all, this is their responsibility to complete their tasks according to each functional roles that being assigned to them. I’m more like a incubator instead of spoon-feeder (if there’s such term). I’m there to support but not for too long.
Maybe one day when I have children of my own, that would be a challenge for me to lead and nurture these rascals! Children naturally are cheeky and restless at times. I hope I could pull this off without taking valium to calm me down! Hahah!
I admit life can be a bitch at times. There are ups and downs in life that shaped our life to become who we are today. Nevertheless, to be that someone I wanted to be it’s also a matter of choice. Life is full with choices but it could disastrous if we made the wrong choices. Clearly I can’t turn back the time and fix it. Instead I have to move forward and let the past stayed where it belong, i.e. Past.
Oh well, what am I babbling about now. I’m supposed to finish my final report for my assignment on ILLY, the most famous provider of premium coffee in the world that also the world’s 2nd most valuable commodity.
Alright. Back to the assignment and shall update more next time!